Finding A Wedding Venue

When starting to plan for your wedding one of the biggest choices you have to make is the venue. Venues come in all shapes and sizes and determine when, where, and how you get to celebrate your wedding day and reception. When picking a venue Richard and I knew we did not want to break the bank but since we were going to be inviting about 60-70 people we knew we needed space. We also knew that cost was our greatest concern. To start we definitely, for s’s and g’s, looked at your more traditionally utilized spaces for weddings. They were: $10,000, $15,000, $20,000 and often they didn’t include everything unless you want to pay even more!

*Dead*

So, once we reinforced our gut feelings we sought out alternatives. We knew that we were not looking for an all-inclusive venue because food, alcohol, decorations, cake, flowers, ect. we could and wanted to do ourselves; besides knowing we could find it much cheaper than if we had it included in the venue. We went with a basic, bare community center in Texas knowing we could turn it into something all our own. All for the great big price of, $350. There are many community resources out there that offer spaces indoor and outdoor to hold your event and for a fraction of the cost of most wedding venues.

Before: Venue

Some alternatives can be, depending on size and what you are wanting to do, are:

1.) A local or even destination park – You can often rent spaces at community parks for almost nothing. You might not even have to pay if it is super small.

2.) A beach – Just do your research early on for potential permit requirements or restrictions.

3.) Community centers -They offer spaces that are sometimes really basic and bare and other times quite beautiful. They almost always will be many times cheaper than a true wedding venue.

4.) Have a backyard wedding – If you, family or friends have a nice house that wouldn’t mind offering up their home for your big day you could make it an extremely budget friendly wedding.

5.) The great outdoors – Even some National Parks offer the ability to hold your event in beautiful locations. Check out some of these suggestions, here.

6.) Have your wedding on an off-peak day (during the week) or during the off season.

7.) Use your creativity! You can get married almost literally anywhere! Use venue search terms that don’t include “wedding” and you might find something perfect that you may have missed otherwise.

The greatest key here is start doing your research early. Some of these ideas fill up swiftly like normal wedding venues so getting the process started early is important. Some don’t require as much prep or any permits but you should make sure you find out ahead of time so you know what you are getting yourself into.

Find out the requirements and restrictions when you are researching so you know what you can and cannot expect from a particular site. You don’t want to have paid for particular elements like a band, decorations, alcohol, ect to find out the day of they are not allowed. Know what you want and what you are willing to do without. Not every THING is as important as it may seem. Save money and just enjoy spending time with the people you are sharing this all with.

Remember it is supposed to be an experience of a life time not an experience you end up paying for for a whole life time. What are some unique ideas you have for a wedding ceremony, reception, or both? How were you able to save money planning your wedding? Let us know in the comments; we love hearing about your experiences. Til next time Pengminions!

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Middle Earth: The Land of Hobbitses! (Pt 4) The Final Chapter

Pengminions!!!!

This has been a CRAzY year! Do not fear we shall not end it without the final installment of New Zealand adventures 😀

Now where did we leave off…

Oh yeah…We left off with Wine day in Christchurch…

Now we shuffle on down to Dunedin:

sealsWhere we met lots of SEALS!!!!!!
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We also stopped at Tunnel Beach
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Where the waves have carved an arch in the rock
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It was a long walk down through private land
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We made it down and found a tunnel to the beach

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A majestic land
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Waves crashing
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Hand standing in the sand
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A view of the beach from the top of the arch
The tide was coming in while we were down there and my shoes got soaked!
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When we were on the edge at the far side of the arch we could feel the waves crashing into the rock!!!
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We stayed in a bungalow and Richard did his fair share of creeping
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On a rainy day in Dunedin we took a tour of the Cadbury Chocolate Factory.
They even gave us special newlywed chocolates!
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We then spent time looking for penguins
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Called lover’s leap
On our first attempt we only found wilderness and beaches til one night….DSC_0950222
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As they approach their nests they are very, VERY loud.
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After Dunedin we started a day trip through The Catlins.
A lil green caterpillar caught a ride and we saw a rainbow
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We stopped by the Lost Gypsy Gallery but they were closed for the season 😦
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We also found Teapot World!
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Then we went and found beautiful Waterfalls:
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These alluring falls behind me are the Purakaunui Falls
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These are the Matai Falls!
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While we were there we wanted to take a picture that ended up a bigger adventure:
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What are we looking at?
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I was keeping an eye on it…
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He looks like he is up to something….
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That is a boiled egg!
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He is on his way to fetch the boiled egg I dropped trying to take silly pictures…
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He’s not happy about this…
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its in the fall water 😀
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The water must be COLD
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Hurray for long arms!
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HAHAHAHA I’ll let you guess what he was saying
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I even found a vine swing that held my weight!
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We had some fun on all these trails in the Catlins
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This is the only picture of Curio Bay….It took Richard a loooong time to finally spot the dolphins (you probably cannot 😦 see them in this picture) that live there. We heard multiple stories from locals how if you are swimming in the water they will come up to you. They are hector’s dolphins. They kinda look like baby killer whales and are the smallest (at about 1.4m) and rarest dolphins.
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Richard’s first look at Lake Wakatipu that feeds Queenstown’s local water supply. It is the longest and third largest lake in NZ.
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Breathtaking views as we made it into Queenstown.
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Our first stop was up the skyline
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Where we took pictures that made us look photo-shopped.
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We even had Wall-E join us
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Look at that blue water and snow capped mountains!
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This was made completely out of jelly beans

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While we were above the city we went luge riding! SO MUCH FUN
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Hot chocolate and latte during our break between runs

Our second day was spent on an all day trip through Milford Sound:
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I don’t know what he was laughing at but I love this picture.
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We stopped at Monkey Creek and filled our water bottles
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The fast water created these phenomenal natural wonders in the rock
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This is our boat we took into the sound
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There were many falls along the mountains
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The end of Milford Sound (It is actually a fjord) and into the Ocean
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This photo is of an actual fault line!
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Breathtaking views from the boat
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The boat even made its way under a waterfall!
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One day we went on an EXTREME Canyon Swing.
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This is actually where it all took place.
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*trying to remember to breathe*
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Later that day we spent some time in quaint Arrowtown
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Where Richard was required to wait outside
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Except when we went in for a spot of the worlds best Earl Grey tea at the old
Postmaster’s cottage in town!
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To end our day we took a picturesque hiking trail with… bluebonnets? lol

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Our very last day consisted of a survival hike guided by Pete of You vs Wild
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We ended up at this very old cottage that you can actually rent out from the department of conservation in NZ.
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Pete was the absolute BEST!!!
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On our last night we went to a pub where a duo who had been playing on the street earlier that day just so happened to be performing. I bought both of their cd’s. The were extraordinary! Phil & Tilley. One plays guitar while the other plays double bass. *MELT*

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And to end our journey:
A sneak peak of our last night’s stay
Honeymoon Suite in Queenstown
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The view from our first flight’s window
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And the icing on Richard’s cake…We took Smaug as our ride home to the US!

And that my friends is where THAT journey ends!
Our glorious honeymoon. I cannot wait to go back and only have the tingling kind of feelings as I type and post pictures for you all to see.
Fear not our adventures have continued pengminions and we are excited to share them with you…
Til next time
Some words to live by:
DON’T FORGET TO
ENJOY THE RIDE
we each have our own.
don’t fear it, live it!
❤ PengFurleighs
(Mrs)

Hiatus….No More!

Pengminions!

We are back…again! It seems we had fallen off the face of the earth but in truth that is not true. In fact we had fallen into a deep, dark routine of work. Our serving job had us working some variation of overtime each week at a nice lil tex-mex place in La Porte,  TX  for about 3 months and that was our focus.  For disappearing during that time I apologize. While we were away we did find some time for a few adventures like The Big Thicket, NASA, and wake boarding!

We are currently, as of today, back on the road. Heading up to Ohio to help out the penguy’s grandma to Chicago to pick up our things to Texas before the MOVE in November. Along the way we plan on a few stops during our road trip(s)….come along with us? 🙂

Til tomorrow pengminions..gotta set up camp!
~Penglady

Middle Earth: The Land of Hobbitses (pt 2)

Hello Pengminions!!! We bring you segment 2 of our New Zealand adventure! Here we have captured the last part of our stay in the north island and make our way to the south island via the aforementioned “ferry ride of death”

We start again as the penguin couple makes their way downstream on the
Tongariro River!

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Oogling the breathtaking views
DSCF4678Touching a lil waterfall
DSCF4684Hitting close to home! HAHA
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Made our way to Taupo! 
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We heard screams and looked up from our peaceful view to find…
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Skydivers!!!!
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Sunset at the great lake!
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20140426_180025The Day we met Mt. Doom!
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Yes, we hiked the whole way! and then some….
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see above: Mt Doom! (you know Lord of the Rings???) aka Mt Nguauruhoe
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There was ice and frost when we started at 7am!
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as we ascend THE MTN…clouds…
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I AM ABOVE THE CLOUDS!!! (and only half way up)
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at one point we see a lake
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once we reach the summit….TWO, THREE, FOUR?!?!!?!
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DSC_0112IT IS THE CRATER ATOP MT DOOM!!!
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WE MADE IT!!!! Successful PENGUINS
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DSC_0149Our gorgeous view from the top above the clouds
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With a great sense of accomplishment we made our way back down the Mountain 
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The shoes that helped me make it
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and we make our way on to the rest of the crossing…about 10 more km to go!
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up more mountainous terrain
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the red crater
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DSC_0196View from the “trail” on the down side of the red crater
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20140427_135217a panoramic picture from the red crater

Sadly after the volcano we were tired and the road was as windy as the road in the clouds from DragonBallZ AND about 7 km to the end so we just forgot from lack of energy to picture anything more. We ended up in a rain forest for the last 5 km or so. The climate changes because of elevation, clouds, and terrain were surreal.
Our SUCCESS FACES! We made it. 8pm WHEW
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Next day, in pain, we went off to check out HUKA FALLS!
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real honey comb

We also checked out the Huka Honey Hive where we saw beez and tasted ALL THE HONEY! (and bought some wine 🙂
It was a lovely attraction as we made our way down to Wellington; our last stop in the north.
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Random art
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free face art so we made our own with it lol
(I discovered howmuch I love panoramic pictures while in NZ)
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The Museum of Te Papa (on every list of must sees)
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preserved giant squid!

We also went to the Weta Workshop: Our minds Exploded inside their work space but sadly picture taking was restricted 😦 
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The dreaded ferry
(I did not know this when the picture was taken! The ship though didn’t have balancing ballasts and we were on some pretty choppy seas….the end of my life as I knew it)

Now we have made it to…The South Island!
Our first day was hiking Abel Tasman
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DSC_0290DSC_0294Cricks (lil creeks) and baby waterfalls everywhere
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The ever wonderful silver fern!
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What marvelous wood grain!!!
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DSC_0335DSC_0361DSC_0369Our stay for the evening was at a quaint hostel
Our room:
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It had a name: The Love Bug
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These are chocolate/mint love bugs!!!
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We have just brushed the surface of all things South Island of New Zealand~y!!!!
Hope you enjoyed the pictures!
More to come just keep a look out friends!!

Peace, Love, and Happiness Everyone!

The Day has Come and Gone….

We had such a wonderful day full of hard work, love, laughter, tears,
and the start to another unforgettable adventure.
Without further ado we present to you….
Pictures in the form of song!

Our Day we share with you…Enjoy!
The Furleighs

Penguin DIY bonanza!

Greetings one and all my favorite Pengminions!
Richard here with your new delve into the deep complex inter-workings of a bird brain (more penguin puns, I know. I’m so good at them).

First off we have some lovely glass jars created by the misses.

painted glass jars done by the misses

painted glass jars done by the misses

Through the magic on Pintrest she found an exceptionally easy way to make these using the following

Gloss Mod Podge, your color food coloring, and a paintbrush!

Gloss Mod Podge, your color food coloring, and a paintbrush!

This is it!

Simply pour a little Mod Podge in the bottom, but not too much, this stuff goes a LONG way as she found out early on. Just dip your paintbrush in the bottom and pull the color up the side in straight lines. Don’t worry about a little clumping at the edges of the brush, it actually turns into slightly more tinted color after it dries which adds to the tinted glass effect. Make sure to give it plenty of time to dry too since any left over paint in the bottom will take a while to completely dry.

If you want to take it to the next level and really turn it into a Moroccan lantern, you can take a metal color of fabric paint and dab it onto the top and bottom to create a hammered metal look.

Just dab the fabric paint right on the jar and let dry

Just dab the fabric paint right on the jar and let dry

She’s pretty crafty for sure!

On my side of things I have spent many evenings over the last couple weeks cutting out gears of various sizes and shapes for use around the venue. One of my more interesting projects in this area has been creating cardboard negatives for use in spray painting a mass amount of gears on various surfaces.
To start out I would hit a tack with a pencil tied to it into the center of a piece of cardboard.

A little duct tape at the end means you don't have to tie the end onto the pencil, making it easier to adjust the length

A little duct tape at the end means you don’t have to tie the end onto the pencil, making it easier to adjust the length

From there just hold the pencil as horizontal as possible while keeping the string taunt. In my case I also had to spin the pencil slightly to counteract the string winding around the pencil and shrinking the circle size (great for a spiral, but not for circles). Repeat this process a few times with smaller circles each time, depending on how large you want the gear teeth, spokes, and center.
circlesOnce here you can pull the tack out, from here create a X in the center. An easy (but not 100%) method is to line up a ruler over the hole in the middle. From here eyeball, or use a carpenters rule to find a right angle and finish off your X. Now that you have a starting point you can go a couple different directions depending on how many teeth you want your gear to have. The easiest way I’ve found to get accurate spacing for everything else is to measure the distance between the two points on the outermost circle. simply divide it in half and make a small hash mark. Repeat this process in between each mark. When done simply place your ruler across the middle and line it up with opposite hash marks. This will give you all the marks you need for a basic 8 tooth gear. For a 12 tooth, take the measurement between the X and divide it into three equal parts and repeat the process of matching up hash marks and marking lines across the center. When done it should look something like this

This is marked out for a 12 tooth gear

This is marked out for a 12 tooth gear

Should you want any more teeth, simply continue to measure the distance between the closest lines and make a mark at the halfway point. Match hash marks across the center again and make another line.

This gear had the most with 32

This gear had the most with 32

To create the teeth place your ruler perpendicular to one of the lines extending from the center and find measurement that extends a little less than halfway toward the next line (you want to leave room so you can taper the edges outward a little). Make a line along this distance and hash marks on the edge of the line extending up away from the center. Repeat this process for each line.
To create the taper coming down from the teeth I lined up my ruler between one of the hash marks and the edge of the smallest circle on the inside. Go ahead and make a line from the outer circle into the next one down. Repeat this process making sure to measure from the same side of the ruler for each line (made that mistake the first time and ended up with a couple teeth that were REALLY off, lol)
You should now be at this point.

Your gear should look something like this.

Your gear should look something like this.

From here, just measure a couple spokes from the center to the next circle. Now just take your time with your exacto knife making sure not to cut outside of the lines. Once it’s cut, just turn it over, make sure all the cut lines match up, and pop it out!

From here to create the negatives for my project however I had to find a way to make sure the parts in the center would stay put even while moving it from surface to surface. To make sure everything stayed put I decided to attach everything using small craft sticks with glue.

Make sure to attach each piece that isn't the whole gear to each other and to the edge for stability

Make sure to attach each piece that isn’t the whole gear to each other and to the edge for stability

After making sure that each piece could be popped out I reassembled the gear and missing pieces (which I had labeled so that I could match them back up easy) I cut out small pieces of cardboard to provide a little distance in between the bottom and the craft sticks so it would be easier to make sure spray paint would get underneath them.

So there you have it! Two unique DIY projects that we have been utilizing to make sure our little soiree is as well decorated as possible (on an awesomely small budget)

If you have any awesome steampunk projects we could use, or need any clarification on any of the above instructions leave us a comment below!

Til next time Pengminions!!
Richard

What is this about Pre-marriaging?

PENGMINIONS!!!!!
I am back again for a second time this week with…

More things all coupley:
Almost a whole week after our engagement shoot we spent 8 hours of a Saturday engrossed in Pre-Marriaging!!!
Something cool you soon to be married people/or those of you no where near engaged can keep in your back pocket for the future if you ever end up going down that aisle. (like “going down that road”, get it???) Anyway, the point being we were going to do most of our premarriage things on our own and they are going smoothly but when searching for information on a marriage license I stumbled upon this site where in the Houston area if you take this 8 hour course you get a certificate to waive the 72 hr wait period and for $60 off of your license!!?!?!? And we thought even if this is teeeerrrrrriibbblllleee we can basically get paper married for FREE! So we went in HOPING it would not be too this or too that and it was PERFECT! It was the complete opposite of a stale, stuffy, over rehearsed, book class. They had the most REAL couple leading the discussion for the day. They were well versed in their curriculum and used their own life as examples, the good and the bad, while also having us interact with them, each other, and the group.

The focus for the day was on Communication. Many of the skills learned can be applied in life period but there were a few things we took away that I think were absolutely wonderful when resolving conflict within relationships. Some things we already did but it was nice to have an outside perspective and something with a little bit clearer of a picture  that we can build on things we already do. They did not preach “this is how things are supposed to be done,” there was no shaming or finger pointing but helping by giving tools to use within each unique relationship and perhaps insight into things that may not have been thought about before. Every relationship is different and there is no cookie cutter way for navigating them. One thing that they said, I have known, and cannot say enough is that relationships are WORK and you both must always be investing in it for it to grow and be rewarding for you day after day.

There is so much more detail that I could put into this for you, so if you want to know more about the group class or want to know about the specific tools we learned don’t hesitate to reach out to us we would love to share with you!

Enjoy the rest of your day Pengminions! We look forward to next time.

Peace, love, and happiness,
Kristen Burleigh

PS: Invites are out…don’t forget your RSVP for April 12, 2014!!!!

And we may have worn our custom jerseys ;P

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Bringing Life to Abandoned Buildings

Hello Pengminions!!!

Kristen here with your next dose of penguin cuteness overload!
Yes, that’s right…YOU will see them right here for the first time
OUR ENGAGEMENT PICTURES!!!!
A week and a half ago we had the privilege of having our engagement pictures done by Andrew Elam! Richard ‘s sister’s boyfriend, a talented man behind the lens, went with us to an abandoned brewery that Richard and I had scoped out a few days before in Galveston. Not only was it abandoned but it was literally across the street from the police station (We try to make every adventure a Super adventure, the more risk the better, not really but it seems to find us and make everything more epic.)
The most easily accessible entrance was facing the station so we opted to venture around the building and found a window we climbed in through one by one. You will see the pictures and the answer is no I did not bring an extra pair of shoes with me to make this easier. Needless to say there were blisters later that day. After getting over my initial worries/fears of getting caught and being thrown in jail (to live out the rest of my days) for trespassing we had a blast! One of the most important things we learned is that Richard has a concentrating (focusing on being relaxed) constipation face hence the quote of the shoot, “Come on, look like you love her.” Richard was trying waaaay too hard to look “normal.” The second most common quote, “Ok, now kiss!”
The joking and awesomeness of the location made it easy to have fun.
Example here:
thug lyfe 4eva

Alright, now on to the good stuff…
find the ligh

all about her

where to standin the light

I am IN LOVE with this next sequence of pictures!!!

 come on, it will be fun  create.lovelook what we can createseeeeegraffiti win

 It is like a little story!

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Having some fun and submitting to American Horror Story

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Editing magic for a silhouette photo:

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This one is Richard’s Favorite:

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I had fun taking pictures in this “window”

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the blissful end
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And that my friends is what we spent our time doing on an early Sunday afternoon. Hope you enjoyed them. Share with us what you think or more adventures we should go on.
🙂
Kristen!

Crafting Steampunk – aka – we’ve hit 1st gear

Hello Pengminions!

Craftyhands Richard with you today to share some recent developments in two exciting worlds. Kristen and I’s, and creating our handmade steampunk bonanza!

Life has been blazing by at what feels like a blistering speed here in Houston as we’ve adopted a fairly routine schedule of working three days a week and trying to get as much detail work on our crafts/constructions as possible. We’ve been swiftly ushered into the young adult life of come home from work, only to have to work more, not even counting the day to day existence workings (can I just be 11 again?). Progress at times has felt slow as we bog down on specific details, and the infinitely minute amount of details that go into a start to finish wedding reception.

In much more exciting news however I have received in all the major pieces of my outfit for the soiree. YEAH BUDDY!! I don’t mean to brag or anything, but I am one sexy dapper beast. I’m keeping everything under wraps (it’s a clothing pun, get it?!) for now, but I will say that the body of my tailcoat is blue and black. Of course I’m still accessory shopping (because what’s a good steampunk outfit without killer goggles right?) and trying to figure out exactly what needs to get attached where and how.

Of course, no true theme is complete without plenty of ambiance decor. On a tight budget however this can start to become an exceptionally daunting task. In order to fight against the squeeze we’ve thrift shopped, garage sale’d, and clearance rack’d everything we could manage. From Hobby Lobby we picked up a couple large lanterns that were missing a few panes of glass for $9 each, saving us almost $100 for the three. On the walls we have decided to have huge wall hangings, and ended up choosing…. landscaping fabric. Yup, a 4′ wide roll of professional grade landscaping fabric. At only $30 for a 200′ long roll it ended up being only .45 a yard; at least a dollar a yard less than any real fabric we could buy. It’s all about re-purposing! That and scrounging through a ton of Goodwill and thrift bins.

I also have completed the first cut out gear for our soiree! 1st gear

Woo!! It didn’t come out QUITE as well as I would have liked, but it was a great 1st prototype and let me learn more of “what to do” in the future. Side note: drawing perfect concentric circles is HARD. Now only like 300 more to go…..

That’s all for now Pengminions! And hey, thank you for reading. We throw out a lot of random thoughts about our lives and a ton of other subjects and we do appreciate it. So if you have any questions or anything let us know below!

Until next time!

Richard F

The ever delicate balance of relationships

Hello once more pengminions!

The larger of the two penguins, Richard (in case you’ve never actually looked at our photos) here with an issue that anyone in relationships hear and deal with on a regular basis.

Fairness, especially when it comes to relationships is a delicate topic for sure. Everyone wants to feel like they are being listened to and that they aren’t the only one putting forth effort into keeping the relationship running smoothly. Now, within the confines of any relationship these things always fluctuate one way or the other. Both in terms of who among the partners is taking the lead on any one issue or feels more adamant about a topic, and also how issues are reacted to and dealt with. Now no two people are the same, so no relationship will function exactly the same as any other. One week someone might be giving a little more of their time, understanding, or patience when dealing with their partner, and over the next couple weeks they themselves may need a little more of a delicate touch because of difficulties they are having with work, or their family, or anything else.

What I have come to discover more and more is that it isn’t always about being right, or needing to get your way all the time. It’s not the small issues that make up who you are. Let those go! If they want to buy an extra bag of chips when shopping or spends a little more time than you would like playing a game or on a particular web site try not to let it bother you. If it’s not affecting your overall relationship, how you function together, your communication, and as long as it’s not turning the other person into a complete sedentary slob, then have a little understanding. If all you do is bog yourself down in the tiny details of your life and relationship it becomes all too easy to lose sight of the big picture, to stop enjoying your life and relationship. Now in the same breath I’m not saying that you should ever feel like you’re being walked over all the time. Just as you should strive to be compassionate and truly listen, it is your partners responsibility to do the same thing for you. To let small things go and to make sure you feel as though your thoughts, feelings, and concerns are being respected as well. In a way, that is the key to making sure things are balanced, by simply discussing it. Having an open line of communication, letting your partner know your reservations and if you feel as though your feelings aren’t being given their proper credence is the pure and simplest way to make sure that you are feeling like an active participant and not just a passenger being drug along.

In the same vein of being an equal partner across a relationship I find myself not so secretly hating a particular phrase I’ve heard repeatedly since we’ve begun planning for our soiree reception.

The day is all about her!

Growing up in a society where this is a generally accepted truth makes for an interesting idea to fight against. In a world where little girls are supposed to grow up and think about their dream wedding and what dress they want and vows at sunset and… and……. and………. Where little boys are more concerned with, bugs, or something. For me however, looking at this screams as an exceptionally unfair situation. In a ceremony where two people are joining together as one for the rest of their lives in this mortal coil, it should be both of their days. Neither one of them should lord over the decisions and proceedings of the day. If you have been married then you likely know the massive undertaking that is putting together a wedding and reception. For those of you who haven’t let me assure you it is a gargantuan undertaking to iron out the thousand little details of when, where, food, music, clothes, etc… These details are compounded even further when you are in charge of making all the decorations, invitations, flower arrangements, food, and more yourself instead of paying to have it done for you (yay having a minuscule budget!).

This single event, the exchange of vows and the celebration after, is a kick start into the rest of your lives. It is a gateway for how the two of you will spend the rest of eternity together, and for one person to exert their influence over the other is something that I simply abhor. It is all a partnership, and in this case, with Kristen, I feel as though I care just as much about the tiny details, like which plate we will place with which napkin, as she does. We want to put on the best event we can and so only by working together to make our joint vision come true will we both be happy with the outcome. The more we enjoy the process of it, the more it will show through our work in a way that will make the whole day shine. So in this way, it will not be her day. It will always be our day

Well I will leave you with that for now pengminions as I step down off my soapbox. Hope you have a great week coming up, and make sure to check out my “shameless self promotion plug” this week and look at our What is Steampunk page for a brief discription and a link to our Pintrest page where you can get some inspiration for your outfit!

Until next time my friends! Keep sliding!

Richard F